Thursday, February 8, 2007

Dating…

Dating as a gay guy in New York is hard. I know that I need to be more proactive and go out to gay bars and meet guys because the internet just doesn’t work. Anyway, as many of you know, I have been playing a texting game with this guy Ryan. I met Ryan out at a bar / lounge in New York a few weeks ago.

We called each other and left voicemails and then the texting game started. Granted, I would call him and leave a voicemail and he would text me back. Now, when a guy texts you back and keeps asking what’s up and wants to hang out I would think that he is interested. So, the last few days we have been texting back and forth and I asked him if he wanted to grab coffee or a drink sometime this week. He got back to me saying he is busy with a birthday party, class and doesn’t know if he is around this weekend.

I dunno, I just get so many mixed messages from this guy. He wants to hang out, then he’s busy which sounds like he is not wanting to hang out, then I get more texts. I dunno. I just need to get out there again. At least I am getting texts from this guy.

8 comments:

  1. Unless the texts start buying you dinner or kissing you goodnight, what good are they!!!

    Good luck in the dating world.

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  2. Love the comment above.

    Don't play the game with him. If he can't get it together than it his loss. Dump the chump and move on. You're waaaay to fabulous to waste your time on him!

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  3. Text messages unless they are from someone you know closely are the kiss of death. Folks to lazy or boring to want to actually speak. Move on from the "texter"

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  4. people like this get me really frustrated. As if we have another 200 years to live. Can't people just be decisive and get what they want. Even if it is just a quick f uck who cares. Bah.. good luck with this guy!

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  5. I may be a bit naive about these things, but if somebody tells me that they're really busy, but otherwise seem to show interest, I usually take them at their word. If I'm patient enough I may end up seeing them; if not, I haven't invested anything other than a few text messages. On the other hand, I might sometimes be guilty of sending texts about being busy myself, so maybe I'm a little biased.

    Anyway, good luck with the dating thing. I'm having fun with it, I hope you are too.

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  6. it sounds like he has a boyfriend. my bf and i have an open relationship that we don't speak of. i can tell you we both do this. i don't know why, it's really unfair to all partys involved.

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  7. drop him - and find someone who will respond to phone calls with a phone call. =)

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